Love Is Better Than Being Right
Have you ever gone round and round with someone close to you on something so trivial? Remember being kids and having that fight? No It don’t, yes it does, No it doesn’t. Yes it does. No it doesn’t, yes it does. ….. Why does it matter that they see things the way we think they truly are when the there is no “right” answer.
I Corinthians 8 1“We all possess knowledge.” But knowledge puffs up while love builds up. Here is my focus for today.”
Regarding the eating of food sacrificed to idols, v.8 Paul shares that there is no right answer to that question providing your choice does not become a stumbling block to the weak.
So in the case where there is no stumbling block; just preference which is right?
These things are essentially a power struggle. Both parties think they are “right” and bicker endlessly. Stupid things create a nit-picking argument that can ruin day and a situation that can add to a pattern creating division. Knowledge; or what we think we know, or think you need to know can be a dangerous thing.
Recently a window left open was the source of an argument that went downhill fast with someone I love. It took a cool down period to realize More than being right or being heard, should be to seek to understand (where the person is coming from) and to build up one another. Don’t be quick to “take a position” on something. Stop and think; allowing love for one another to take the higher road.
Let minor things go. In the 80’s the book was published, “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Carlson’s book title became a mantra for many. Back to our scripture; the last part of verse one in the scripture above is “Love builds up”. Clearly my fighting over a window wasn’t building up myself or the person I love. Truly a window would be considered small stuff.
Haven’t we all fought to prove a point to someone we love, only to end up alienating ourselves from that person; in turn ruining an otherwise good moment, situation or special day? It feels horrible; I certainly know first-hand. Ecclesiastes1: 18 “For in much wisdom is much vexation, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.”
We know that love never fails. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 Paul doesn’t teach us that the greatest gift is knowledge. He said the greatest of these is love. Why then do we have that drive to be heard and be right at any cost? We need to embed in ourselves that it is love that will never fail.
When both parties are putting love before knowledge, They will experience a powerful strength in their relationship. If you begin to prayerfully ask God for the wisdom and grace to seek to love over proving yourself “right”, you will find more peace in yourself and less opportunities for these types of divisions in your relationship. Does it really matter how the window came to be left open?
As Christians we are to strive to become the image of Christ. Pray God would give you the wisdom and strength to deny your fleshly desire to be right for the greater gift of love. In all situations seek to love the way Christ loves us and thank Him for the gift (the person) that God has put in your life for you to love.
Being right is very satisfying and it feeds our pride (a blog for another day). Having that person you love in your life is priceless.